Seems like they just occur at the same time. Somewhere is an analogy of a Viking snake myth eating its tail that comes to mind.
Or perhaps it's just the Tears for Fears lyric "Nothing good happens without some pain."
I don't really know and I am truly the last person I would ask advice from at this point.
I know there is all of the wisdom to be said about its my journey and people, places and things will come and go, it does not however make it any easier.